Heather and Doug Nunley

So this month has been a busy one. Work has kept me pretty busy all day and my life has kept me busy all evening. Between the snow and the funeral, it feels like I have done nothing but play catch up at work. I have only worked 10 full days this month! Too bad the other days have not been spent at the beach or a spa!

I was in Bama for the National Championship celebration this past weekend but I chose not to go. Me and Mom had not spent any time together the whole week I was home so we took the day to get away and do some shopping. We did go to Auburn the day after the funeral with some family to stock up on our Auburn apparel. It was wonderful to see the National Champions flags already flying on College Street.



I hate I missed the celebration but it was time well spent with my Mommy. The whole week we had at least a living room full of people at our house throughout the day. It was great seeing my family especially since it has been a long time since we all got together. but it did make me a little claustrophobic. Me and Doug left one evening to go to Wal-Mart just so we could get out of the house for awhile. Our church and family friends are the best anyone could ask for. They asked if there was anything they could do and did something anyways if you told them no. We had so much food that we did not have to bother thinking about what we were going to eat. I am thankful to everyone who called, gave their time or cooking skills, and prayed for us last week. I am especially thankful that I was able to take the days off I needed to be with my family. Not everyone can say that and I am truly do appreciate it.

In response to a friend of mine's blog that asked would you rather know or not know that someone was about to die... You want to know so you can have that last conversation and tell them how much you love, appreciate, and are going to miss them. You also want the time to prepare yourself so you do not go into a state of shock. I think more people get severely depressed after loosing a loved one if it was a sudden loss compared to having time to process it. You also get to appreciate the times you spend together more. Now that I have said that, let me say this. I also do not think the person should have to suffer. I would rather them go quickly and feel no pain than have one last day with them. Yes, it would be nice to be able to have that last conversation with everyone you love but that will not always be able to happen. No last conversation or script of what you would like to say is needed if you tell them now while they are still here. If you tell them now how much you love them and appreciate them then when they pass they will go knowing exactly how you felt about them.